1. Not Vocalizing What You Want
Whether on the apps or in a relationship, don’t be afraid to make your wants and needs transparent. If we all did this, my unscientific guess is that couples and people who are dating casually would have 78 percent fewer arguments and broken hearts.
It’s hard to break up. It’s also hard to send a “thanks but no thanks” text to a request for a second date you just weren’t that into. (Though I’d imagine you’d word it much more nicely than I did above.) If you’ve ever been strung along, you know how terrible it feels. Be direct. Sh*t or get off the pot in your next half-relationship, or actual relationship. It’s the kind thing to do.
3. Drunk-Texting Bae
This goes for your exes or your new conquests, as one who has been guilty of this many times, I say: Just Say NO To Drunk Texting. Even if you think you’re being cutesy, one misread text can escalate into a full-blown argument with stunning ease when under the influence. Keep your phone in your bag!
4. Sticking To One “Type”
Newsflash: We are mostly all wrong about what our “type” is. When it comes to the aspects of dating you can put down on paper — height, religion, education, career, etc. — I think we are usually mostly wrong about what’s best for us. Going on more dates in 2018 has taught me that it’s the connection, not the stats of a person that are important. I can’t tell you how many dating profiles made me say, “He’s exactly my type!” only to find out in person that we didn’t click at all.
5. Not Challenging Ourselves To Date/Not Date
Whether you are always dating someone or serially single, why not take a breath and give the other option a try? If you’re constantly in relationships, take a moment to be single and learn more about yourself. If you’re always single, force yourself to get on the apps and go on those bad dates until you find someone fun to hang out with (or marry!). If you’re in a committed relationship, why not challenge yourself to plan something spontaneous for your partner?
The thing about habits is that they remain unchanged unless you take action. Think about what represents the trash bag full of old clothes in your love life, and get rid of it by doing the opposite of whatever it is. Dating is hard, why not help yourself in every way you can?